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How To Rock A First Date!

Posted on 18. Aug, 2010 by Jo-Ann in Relationships

We must have heard a million dating rules in our lifetime. Wouldn’t it be nice to impress your date without actually trying too hard? Simply by being your true self? Truth is, there is a way to do so without actually losing your identity. Remember dating is merely a means of ‘testing the waters’…seeing whether or not you and your date are compatible enough for each other.

Come on, I mean who really wants to seem earnest and fake with a potential partner just because you’re pursuing some unrealistic or practically ridiculous set of ‘dating rules’.  I couldn’t have said it any better!….“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second rate version of someone else,” Judy Garland. I mean that way you’ll come across as being easy-going and as secure as possible, which in true essence are alluring characteristics.

Don’t Ask Too Many Personal Questions - No one likes that! Well at least most persons don’t. It makes you seem a bit too “nosy” and intrusive. C’mon it’s a first date! Try and engage in casual conversation. For instance “what do you like to do for fun?” Don’t ask something silly like “What shampoo do you use?” or even worse “So how much do you earn?” Like Really?! Don’t! It’s good to take it slow in the beginning…getting to know each other as the date flows at a steady pace. Many persons feel they need to find some magic sparkle on the first date…so they try too hard, turning the date into an interview. Don’t end up in that situation. You may ruin your chances with someone you really like.

Be Your Complete Self – You shouldn’t have to compromise who you really are to please anyone! Make sure that whoever you decide to date is someone who can and wants to accept you just as you are. It makes no sense to even attempt to change someone. Then you wouldn’t really be dating that person now would you? You’d be dating a modified version of that particular individual. It’s important for both persons to enjoy each other’s flaws. Simply just be your best self and nothing more or less. I mean if he or she really likes you, they will stick around for more dates to come.

Go a Little Wild - Unmask that confident and adventurous side of your identity. Ding Ding Ding! You automatically score points in your date’s mind. Doing so flaunts your individuality and how secure you are with just being your true self. It makes you seem fun and exciting. You’ll leave your potential partner wondering what you’ll do next. So breaking the rules every now and then gives the date a twist.

“Rules Shmules!” Yes I know I mentioned earlier instead of focusing on the “RULES” of dating, it’s best to just concentrate on being extremely honest. However some of us take it too far! I mean c’mon your starting off on a fresh page…..I’m sure your date is more interested in hearing about you…Not Your Ex! There’s no need to go ‘on and on’ and blab about your ex and how they wrecked the relationship…..if that’s the case, it simply means one thing. You’re Not Over Them! So discussing past lovers is not such a good idea.